How to relate to a demanding person?

How to relate to a demanding person?
Posted on 18-03-2022

In the first place we would have to ask ourselves, what is a demanding person like? o What does it mean for a person to be a plaintiff?

We all have a demanding party because we all need each other at some point. The demand is that which leads us to request, request, claim or demand, depending on where it is put into play, something to another.

In childhood, we are all in a position of demand, because human being needs the other in order to develop. That initial dependency and vulnerability is offset by the degree of autonomy that can be acquired over time. In a sense, however, this demand position may continue to be present throughout life.

The demanding person that we will refer to in this article is the one who usually asks or demands from another in a very recurrent way. The demand can be affection, physical contact, attention. Or it can be direct demand for material things, favors, or all kinds of attention from the other. Generally speaking, every demand is a demand for love. The individual asks because probably some of that containment, attention, or closeness could not be consolidated at the time.

Demanding individuals can become insatiable, that is, no matter how much is given to them, they will always consider it insufficient or they will not be able to stop doing it. The bond with people of this type is usually difficult. In many cases, they don't last long because the person being sued gets tired and walks away.

Jealousy problems may arise because the person who is demanding demands priority attention and does not tolerate it when it is divided among other people. The request is also usually so invasive that the response of the other person is often not recorded, and limits may be overlooked or the intimacy and privacy of the other may be violated.

In this eagerness for contact and attention, all the obstacles that arise can be overwhelmed, and in many cases, all sense of what corresponds or not is lost, because the focus is directly oriented to what you want to achieve.

In these cases, it is very important that the person who is being sued can position himself in such a way that he can preserve himself, transmitting to the other the impossibility of fully complying with what is asked of him.

If the respondent flees the situation, the respondent will find a way to keep doing so. Even this avoidance is the reason for an increase in anxiety and the feeling of rejection.

It is very important to be able to tell him when he exceeds the limits or intimacy and appeal to uphold those limits, making them visible and respected.

Responding to all their demands does not help the person register their excess. For this reason, the best way is to be able to transmit what it feels like to have such a repeated demand. Emotional communication is always the best way to intervene in these situations. To be able to express how one feels and how important it is that one's own limits are respected so that this bond can continue.

 

 

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