Respectful and creative parenting.

Respectful and creative parenting.
Posted on 21-03-2022

Today parenting models are undergoing transformations and deconstruction. There is new information about parenting and significant development around respectful parenting.

From this, the focus is located on the quality time dedicated to the children and respect for their own time and their uniqueness. These approaches allow registering and restricting the different forms of violence that are often exercised even involuntarily.

The conventional parenting system usually considers the adult as the possessor of knowledge, the one who has to educate, restrict or discipline the child. Or, on the contrary, not limit at all, and leave the child in a kind of abandonment, left to himself.

Neither of these extremes is good. Upbringing must result from a conjunction between adult presence, containment, and healthy limits while respecting the needs and demands of the boy or girl according to their stage of development. This double movement is what makes respectful parenting possible. In it, mothers and fathers assume their role with responsibility, commitment, and participation not only from their physical presence but, fundamentally, emotionally. With the ability to receive and metabolize the anguish and frustrations that the boy or girl goes through, providing them with support and shelter, and helping them to recognize and manage their own emotions.

Your son or daughter is not an extension of you.

One of the most controversial issues in parenting is being able to recognize that sons and daughters are not extensions of themselves, but rather that they are developing in their uniqueness. They will present differences, tastes, interests, and, as they grow and in the best of cases, subjective choices. Understand that parenting is accompanying the development and deployment of a being with whom many things are shared but who is another, an individual whose difference we must respect.

Pretending that sons and daughters are the same or choose or think the same things are undoubtedly a form of violence, insofar as it undermines their subjectivity.

That is why their privacy must be respected, depending on their age and the degree of autonomy achieved. Giving him tools so that he knows how to respect his body and his personal space.

Respect the creativity of the child in upbringing.

Respect for the child's creativity, exploration, and curiosity is a key aspect of this matter. These are tendencies that are innately manifested in children with healthy development, and restricting or even not stimulating it prevents the unfolding of its true potential and affects self-esteem.

Respecting creativity implies offering the necessary materials and means for the child to unfold their own path. It is not constantly telling you what to do and how to do it. Nor transform every creative activity into a school class. It is to offer him presence, participation in the game, it is to show him that what he creates is valuable and encourage him to continue doing so.

If the child feels sure of his creative potential, this provides a very important base in the constitution of his subjectivity, in the development of confidence regarding himself and the world, in the identity process, in his autonomy.

Finding out about new approaches allows mothers and fathers to find their own imprint. It is not expected to follow manual instructions, but to have the tools to exercise responsible and respectful parenting.

 

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