Why is emotional responsibility so important?

Why is emotional responsibility so important?
Posted on 17-03-2022

What do we mean when we talk about emotional responsibility?

It is a term that is widely used today to refer to the responsibility necessary to establish healthy relationships. It refers to becoming aware of what we can generate emotionally in other people, paying attention to what we say, how we say it, and how honest we are when initiating and maintaining effective or sexual-affective relationships with others.

Because it is important? In recent times, the field of "meeting" in the field of couples was very broad and devoid of codes. The previous stage, otherwise conservative and plagued by social and religious norms (where any sexual encounter prior to marriage was synonymous with sin, among others) gave way to an opposite reaction, where practically everything was valid, in any case. In the process of this liberation, the effect that we can have on the other person was not taken into account and the need to claim a position of respect and honesty was made present.

Starting to know someone implies that, at that moment, both people are going through different emotional states and living that experience from different points of view. While one can be with great illusions and expectations, the other person can be simply pretending to hang out, without intentions of any kind. For this reason, it is very important, especially when receiving feedback that is different from the one we are feeling, to be able to express what is happening to us in the most sincere way possible, respecting the other in their feelings as well.

This code that is currently becoming popular, so necessary, comes to fill a great gap that has left damage and wounds in those who experienced it. Not having the intention of a serious relationship, for example, is something that should be communicated, especially if it is observed that the other person is getting involved in a different way. It is a responsibility that those who do not intend anything else communicate it and in many cases also move away.

In the same way, whoever begins to feel more involved is responsible for transmitting to the other person that something is changing in that bond.

The greater the communication and respect for the emotions of the other person, the more fruitful the bond will be and the less damage will be. Relationships that begin or are crossed by manipulations and deceit usually leave the victim feeling very insecure in the relational area, generating, in many cases, distrust for future encounters.

We all have a binding responsibility. We must be aware that we cannot appear and disappear from someone's life as if nothing happened. At the same time, it is also important and healthy to set limits if one of the parties has not understood the message and invades or continues to insist unilaterally.

In every bond, but even more so in those of a couple, there must be a common agreement, a consent of that meeting, and of that communication. We are responsible not only for what we choose but also for what we can generate in others. Although we often cannot handle the reactions or conditioning of that other, we can pay attention to our actions and how respectful we are being of the other and their emotional universe.

Affective responsibility lies in the recognition of the other person as a being worthy of being respected, valuable, even when their place is not with us. And vice versa, understanding that we cannot handle what the other feels, being able to respect when it is not reciprocated, and following the path on the other hand.

As long as respect and responsibility are present, affective or sexual-affective encounters can mean great learning.

 

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