Relationship between arrogance and insecurity.

When observing people with arrogant features, we often feel rejection and immediately associate it with excessively confident and narcissistic behavior. We can think that whoever talks about himself constantly, boasting, has a large amount of psychic energy towards him. However, the reason why this happens is usually, in reality, an undercurrent of deep insecurity.

Pride is compensatory. Whoever has the need to talk about his achievements and his virtues permanently is rather in an attempt to convince himself and others of his worth. The fact that he has to reiterate or expose it so much gives us the guideline that it is not something that has it firmly established, but that he must use all his energy to make an effort to make it clear.

It was Alfred Adler, a disciple of Freud, who delved into the phenomenon of psychological compensation. Those who have a complex or a deficiency, try to compensate for it by developing other facets and characteristics and trying to maximize them, in order to overcome that feeling of inferiority. As a result of this, we can think that all desire for superiority has an inferiority complex as a background.

The insecurity stems from an initial situation of helplessness, of feeling vulnerable and without the necessary resources to face what is presented. The extreme dependence of the human being in its origins, which requires an attentive and empathetic other to interpret the signs of its needs, exposes it from the beginning to strong insecurity, which will be balanced as long as there is a caregiver present who take care of calming those anxieties and providing support and shelter.

Many times this initial insecurity or feeling of vulnerability cannot be sufficiently accompanied and neutralized, and the person develops a feeling of inferiority that they will later try, in some cases, to compensate for in their own way, with their own resources. A defensive mechanism that allows this compensation is to enhance characteristics or traits of oneself that give him the feeling of having strength and power, in order to combat that original helplessness. Pride is a careful intention to ratify and find firmness where there is none.

Therefore, when we see someone who constantly displays his arrogance, we can grasp the complexity of the situation in this way, considering what can be found in the origin of such a trait. Having this kind of information helps us to understand others and ourselves a little more. When it comes to human beings, things are not usually literal, although it depends on the case, but generally the behaviors we observe respond to something or arise as a defense or response to some past or present situation, or have unconscious determinations that we do not know.

Positioning ourselves empathetically in front of others, (even though we observe behaviors that, of course, deserve limits and in many cases distance and this does not justify them) helps us to think about situations instead of judging them, and this also has a direct effect about how we perceive and treat ourselves.

 

 

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